You cannot choose who you fall in love with. You definitely do not choose to be in love. This is like saying a person is able to choose to just stop loving someone, and if this were the case, no one would ever grieve. If you could stop loving someone just like that there wouldn’t be so many people stuck in relationships that do nothing but hurt them. I don’t think love is accidental, but it’s definitely not a choice. But you do choose who you get close enough to for it to happen.