Both of those things can't be true. And what's happening next like on the MeToo movement for example and the affirmative consent, is the old sexual taboos are reasserting themselves. The idea that we can remove emotional and psychological intimacy from sex turned out to be a backlash, like "I feel used, I feel manipulated." Because one of the things that are happening on the radical end of the anti-sexual-abuse movement is the idea that "If you have intercourse with someone and then you regret it the next day, that is evidence that it wasn't consensual." It is in the sense of the evidence that it wasn't consensual because it is evidence that you didn't bloody well think it through.
The one-million question is: so what constitutes consent? You fuck them the other night with consent, but annulled by the new fact that 3 days later you regret it? You want both ways. You want to be able to do whatever you want with whoever you want whenever you want with no consequences and you want there never to be any trouble about consent. What the hell?! No, that's not going to happen.
I don't think sex works very well outside of committed relationships. There's a strong proclivity across cultures for the social enforcement of long-term monogamy, and there's reason for that. I think we deviate from that at our peril. And if you want to deviate from that there are all sorts of reasons to do it, I can understand why people are interested in adventure and all of that, but you only really get to try out five people in your life, you have to make a decision pretty damn quick, like you know between the age of 20 and 30 there's a lot of time to get your shit together, and long-term mate is usually one of them. Make a good decision to pick one and commit.
It is so interesting that all of the sexual taboo reconstruction is coming from the radical left. It's not what I'd expect at all. I'd think it'd be the damn right-wing religious complaining about sexual immorality. Nope, it's the lefties. You have to have signed consent before making any physical move. Really? Who thought that up? That's the stupidest thing I ever heard. Do you know how awkward that would be? You are supposed to be able to do a little bit of nonverbal reading. I mean that's part of romance. Do you ever see a movie where two people who are dating exchange consent notes? It's going to take us a long time to sort this out, but hopefully, we can do it in a serious manner and it won't be merely a matter of mobbing those who seem to have made an error.
