Soulmate is the idea that there's ONE person out there that completes you. Reality check: It comes from Greek mythology. In Plato's Symposium, Aristophanes presents a story about soulmates and says that humans originally had four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces … they were split apart by an evil deity and blah blah blah. We don't believe other Greek myths anymore, why do people believe in that nonsense still?
There are countless people you could have a successful marriage with, with varying levels of effort. A soulmate is just an amazing person, or someone you want that compares to no other. You want that right? Soulmate is not perfection, or being complete, and any reasonable human knows this. Difficult times are only going to bring you together or rip you apart. Make sure your mate is willing to compromise and put you first above all else. If you aren't each other's first and last thoughts of the day … it's over.
In the first place they don't have reason to get married except sex. The role as husband and wife has changed and they don’t seems to bother and they don't aware. Marriage requires a lot of sacrifices. That doesn't seems to hold anymore because of distractions like work, or no time, too tired, too boring … basically there are no family thing. People take the easy way out and divorce like it's nothing. You married that person for a reason. Work it out!
We can't make the other person responsible for making us 100% happy all the time. It's that pressure which causes problems between couples, and I would say that if they found things that fulfilled them without expecting it to be given to them at all times by their partner, they might find they are more interesting to each other and have more to talk about.
Most couples switch to automatic mode, sit back, and hope the marriage will do their own trials. You need to be physically and mentally involved to make things work and that's 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year. Forget that nonsense you must have a separate me-time, that is the initial divorce when you start feeling your partner too much into your life and need some time alone.
The question everyone should ask their partner is: How do you want me to love you? Each of us have a specific way of being loved. We have this notion that the way we do things is the right way according to our standards. Some of us need more hugs and kisses on a regular basis. Some need stimulating conversation everyday. Those small efforts make the bonds.
The thing is, even if soulmates DO exist, believing in them can make you worse at relationships. It can make you unable to compromise, because you're "perfect" for each other. Great relationships aren't found, they're made. What you are need to find is a person who loves you enough to make it work.
